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Do you know what scares me the most? Yes! Child birth. The mere thought of birthing a child gives me goose bumps. The pains (labor plus sweet pain).Over time I have had this phobia for child birth but I rarely spoke about it. The fear of labor can be really overwhelming.

The first trimester (approximately Week 1-13) is usually the period of fertilization after ovulation has occurred, then implantation takes place and boom… you are pregnant! Then other changes that cause one to change her daily routines will occur. You tend to eat more frequently than usual or avert certain types of food, constipation,  nausea with or without vomiting, morning sickness- the fact that you feel a lot of discomfort, mood swings…-sorry future husband but you have to keep up with all these drama -the headaches, heartburns, frequent urination. You feel completely different and you have to get used to this new changes because they are going to last for a pretty good while.

The second trimester (app. Week 14-27) may look easier than the first, it is often the most enjoyable trimester. The nausea and fatigue may lessen a little bit or go away completely. The “baby bump” will start to show plus the effect causes expansion in the abdomen. Yep, it’s about that time for maternity photo shoot. Also most women get their pregnancy glow around week 12. Now the problem isn’t the baby but WHAT-TO-WEAR and WHAT-NOT-TO-WEAR. I mean I have to post ‘slaying’ pictures on the gram #WinksEye. Back to reality: back pains, abdominal contractions, thigh pains, swelling of ankles, breast and hips enlargement (this is the part most of us look forward to, we get the figure 8 shape…from behind of course), skin changes, dizziness, leg cramps, Urinary Tract Infections (UTIs-pregnant women are more prone to UTIs at the point), some women experience swelling of their face especially the nose. Oh Lord! I don’t want to imagine, then your feet feel like they’re girdled with goliath’s armor. The fact that I can’t wear my old shoes and if I did it looks like I’m wearing my kid sister’s shoes is just out of it. #TakeADeepBreath future Mummy.

The third trimester (app. Week 28-40 and up) you will experience more changes, but this is the final stage of pregnancy. Your experience will likely continue, alongside new ones. The baby grows and puts more pressure on your bladder and waist, hence increased back pain and even more frequent urination. Most women get Varicose veins, that is the veins in their legs and feet becomes dilated and enlarged and it’s very visible through their skin. This is normal and once you bring forth that lovely child all these problems go away.

Then there’s the part of bringing the child into the world. Some women do it through the natural process of birthing while some have to undergo Cesarean Section (CS). Each has their various risks and each Mother-irrespective of the birthing process they went through-is very Brave and Courageous. Imagine putting your life on the line so another life can come into existence, that’s what every Mother goes through for you and I to be here.

I would want to have my child, there’s no greater feeling than this, than to just hold my child. All the pains and body changes I would have to go through for 9 months would pale in comparison to the sweet bundle of joy God has given me to bring into this world. Imagine having a child with someone you really love. Looking at the child and just seeing the true reflection of your lover and yourself.

Oh yes, I forgot the Baby Shower. How could I?  This is so important. Open letter to Sharon, Naomi, Favour, Purity, Henrietta, Doyin and Debbie plus my baby’s God Mother, Goodness. If I don’t get a surprise baby shower from you guys, you all are going to be dealt with.

Dear future husband I’m here “chilling” for you. Take your time- but not too much time- so that when I’m pregnant, I can tell you to look for “Wedding Rice” for me by 4 am on a Monday morning and blame it on the baby; “It’s the baby not me”#PuppyEyes.

#THEPENOFAREADYWRITER                                                                                                                                                                                                               PRECIOUS SAMSON


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  • Esther
    April 16, 2019

    Amazing ??????????

  • Naomi
    April 16, 2019

    I will give a shocking surprise??

  • Anonymous
    April 16, 2019


    • el papi
      April 16, 2019

      putting their lives on the line to breadth life into another is certainly my take out from this beautiful piece. . God bless all our mothers

      • Blessing
        April 22, 2019

        Nice one
        From today u are my fan
        I go dey follow dey go
        Thumbs up
        All the best
        Keep soaring high

    • Anonymous
      April 17, 2019

      Awesome… nice 1??

  • Chi_Success
    April 16, 2019

    Amazing gurl more grace

  • Goodness
    April 17, 2019

    An interesting Write-up……so proud of you???. Truly the joy of Motherhood

  • Befly
    April 17, 2019


    • Hannatu
      May 9, 2019

      Awesome girl

  • Anonymous
    April 17, 2019

    After going through this, i mean each and every line, i wonder how women of old survived all these and gave birth to so many children and still abandoned them knowing what the went through just to bare 1 child… Plus it scares me #thisisthe21stcenturytypeofpregnancy ?… Its not that bad … I want to be pregnant and i want children so my first child and my experience will be the determinant of another pregnancy! So yes pregnancy! ?

  • Doyin
    April 17, 2019

    Go on girl ??
    I love this write up

    • Kymberly
      April 17, 2019

      This is just so wonderful…

  • Purity
    April 17, 2019

    Nice one my girl
    Will definitely give you a surprise baby shower

  • sharon
    April 17, 2019

    Definitely….nice one girl??

  • Anonymous
    April 19, 2019

    More grace. A beautiful pies

  • Enoch ziggy
    April 19, 2019

    Nice one , more grace I pray

  • Herietta
    April 19, 2019

    Of course na we will definitely throw you a surprise baby shower ??… Wonderful piece love…

    I won’t lie this pregnancy thing scares me too… But God will see us through it all in due time…

    Great work sis… Proud of you…??

  • Anonymous
    April 19, 2019

    Amazing, future husbands be ready.

  • Leo
    May 22, 2019

    Wonderful piece Dear

    dats y women rule the world

  • Kinta
    June 19, 2019

    Really enlightening piece there..
    great work dear

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