Do you know what scares me the most? Yes! Child birth. The mere thought of birthing a child gives me goose bumps. The pains (labor plus sweet pain).Over time I have had this phobia for child birth but I rarely spoke about it. The fear of labor can be really overwhelming.
The first trimester (approximately Week 1-13) is usually the period of fertilization after ovulation has occurred, then implantation takes place and boom… you are pregnant! Then other changes that cause one to change her daily routines will occur. You tend to eat more frequently than usual or avert certain types of food, constipation, nausea with or without vomiting, morning sickness- the fact that you feel a lot of discomfort, mood swings…-sorry future husband but you have to keep up with all these drama -the headaches, heartburns, frequent urination. You feel completely different and you have to get used to this new changes because they are going to last for a pretty good while.
The second trimester (app. Week 14-27) may look easier than the first, it is often the most enjoyable trimester. The nausea and fatigue may lessen a little bit or go away completely. The “baby bump” will start to show plus the effect causes expansion in the abdomen. Yep, it’s about that time for maternity photo shoot. Also most women get their pregnancy glow around week 12. Now the problem isn’t the baby but WHAT-TO-WEAR and WHAT-NOT-TO-WEAR. I mean I have to post ‘slaying’ pictures on the gram #WinksEye. Back to reality: back pains, abdominal contractions, thigh pains, swelling of ankles, breast and hips enlargement (this is the part most of us look forward to, we get the figure 8 shape…from behind of course), skin changes, dizziness, leg cramps, Urinary Tract Infections (UTIs-pregnant women are more prone to UTIs at the point), some women experience swelling of their face especially the nose. Oh Lord! I don’t want to imagine, then your feet feel like they’re girdled with goliath’s armor. The fact that I can’t wear my old shoes and if I did it looks like I’m wearing my kid sister’s shoes is just out of it. #TakeADeepBreath future Mummy.
The third trimester (app. Week 28-40 and up) you will experience more changes, but this is the final stage of pregnancy. Your experience will likely continue, alongside new ones. The baby grows and puts more pressure on your bladder and waist, hence increased back pain and even more frequent urination. Most women get Varicose veins, that is the veins in their legs and feet becomes dilated and enlarged and it’s very visible through their skin. This is normal and once you bring forth that lovely child all these problems go away.
Then there’s the part of bringing the child into the world. Some women do it through the natural process of birthing while some have to undergo Cesarean Section (CS). Each has their various risks and each Mother-irrespective of the birthing process they went through-is very Brave and Courageous. Imagine putting your life on the line so another life can come into existence, that’s what every Mother goes through for you and I to be here.
I would want to have my child, there’s no greater feeling than this, than to just hold my child. All the pains and body changes I would have to go through for 9 months would pale in comparison to the sweet bundle of joy God has given me to bring into this world. Imagine having a child with someone you really love. Looking at the child and just seeing the true reflection of your lover and yourself.
Oh yes, I forgot the Baby Shower. How could I? This is so important. Open letter to Sharon, Naomi, Favour, Purity, Henrietta, Doyin and Debbie plus my baby’s God Mother, Goodness. If I don’t get a surprise baby shower from you guys, you all are going to be dealt with.
Dear future husband I’m here “chilling” for you. Take your time- but not too much time- so that when I’m pregnant, I can tell you to look for “Wedding Rice” for me by 4 am on a Monday morning and blame it on the baby; “It’s the baby not me”#PuppyEyes.
#THEPENOFAREADYWRITER PRECIOUS SAMSON