It’s an amazing feeling knowing that someone loves you and you love that person back. Waking up to morning text messages and calls, having butterflies in your tummy… just looking at a person but then realizing that you still love that person so much despite all their flaws and imperfections. Don’t you just want to love?
Relationships are built on love, but the foundation of every relationship is dependent on the individual. A relationship can/would never work if individuals do not strive to make it work. We all have couples that we admire so much, but then do you know what they went through to have that beautiful relationship? If you want to have a relationship as beautiful as theirs, then you have to be ready to face challenges, to face the good and bad sides of your relationship because relationship involves two imperfect people who are willing to be together irrespective of their tribe, bad characters, bad habits, norms, values, cultures, traditions, etc. With all that you still love them, you still want to be with them. Love is so sweet.
Relationship may not be so sweet all the time; there would be disagreements, arguments, love waxing cold…but this is normal. In every relationship, the truth remains that disagreements and arguments, if communicated properly helps us understand our partners better.
WARNING: Don’t ever compare your relationship with your significant other to the relationships of other people!!! These lines I heard from a good friend of mine. Be with someone you are very comfortable with. I was chatting with my roommate/friend Naomi and she asked me, “Why don’t you want to date this guy?” And I replied, “I really like him, he’s a cool guy but I am not free with him. I want someone who I can be very comfortable being weird with. I don’t just want any relationship, but I want a relationship that we can be best friends and lovers; that makes the relationship interesting.” Can you communicate with your partner effectively?
A healthy relationship is all about communicating effectively, and you know you are in a great relationship when you are able to speak your mind; no grudges or hard feelings. You won’t have to be afraid of offending your partner by suggesting your opinions and speaking the truth even when it may hurt and your partner feels the same way.
IN CONCLUSION: Dating someone without a specific purpose is like a child who plays with a toy and then discards it. When you date someone, you are affecting the person’s feelings. So be sure your intentions are honorable. Respect, adore and admire your partner. Let love and loyalty be inside of you, let it motivate your actions, choose to be together, and stretch your capacities of love even when it hurts and looks like conflict. Learn to know each other as real and imperfect people, as two unique individuals, unlike any other two. Belong to each other, to understand, to care. Share interests, hopes and aspirations. Love and strengthen them in all labor, share your shoulders so that they can lean on you in times of sorrow, minister to them in times of pains. Finally, forgiveness and
grace should govern your behavior daily.